The 3 hour long drive to my mom’s house, with cranky kiddos, summer heat, cramped legs, all pays off in the end when we get to spend the day with my 9 siblings celebrating Eid together. As time goes by more and more of my siblings are leaving the nest and going off to school, and it is getting rarer and rarer that we are ever all together at once. I really like being the 2nd eldest in my family, the eldest girl, I feel like I’ve been there from the beginning. I remember changing my little sister’s diaper, taking my little brother out to play in the snow, letting them sleep with me in my bed when they didn’t want to sleep alone, and countless other things. Now a lot of them have surpassed me in height, it’s amazing how time flies, and how quickly things change. As they grow, our relationships change too, me- from a motherly caring type, to more of a friend and companion. I look forward to the days ahead inshaAllah, when our gatherings will be so full, with new spouses, and nieces and nephews, all hopefully coming together from all different directions to convene at one place to celebrate as a family.
Being as it was, a celebration right after Ramadan, there wasn’t much time for handmade gifts, but I did manage to squeeze in a little custom pillow for my mother. She really wanted a pillow that said Salam on it, and I knew her favourite colour was purple, and I happened to have a pillow form, and a bit of sequined ribbon left over from a previous project, and it came together quite nicely. If you were to ever visit my mother’s home, you would see traces of me everywhere. That sailboat/lighthouse painting on the living room wall, the embroidery hoop art in the dining room, Eid moon and star banner in the hallway, the new pillow on her bed, and I’m sure there’s more. It feels like I’m still there, that I haven’t completely left, though I’ve been married for 10 years now.
My older brother recently went to visit our fatherland, Vietnam, and at my request, brought home the girls matching áo dài dresses to wear for Eid. I don’t know why but it gives me great pleasure to dress my girls in matching dresses for special occassions. He even got a matching dress for his daughter, so all 4 grand-daughters were matching on Eid, mashaAllah. I am already scheming matching dresses I can make the girls for Eid ul Adha inshaAllah, though I will see if I actually get the time to complete them!