If you have been around my blog for a while you may happen to know that I have a six year old daughter, and also a much younger new baby daughter. Yes, there is a six year gap between the two in age. As a Muslim I believe that, we human beings make lots of plans in our lives, but God is The Best Planner. It may be hard to understand second child infertility and it really did take me all those years to finally truly accept my fate. But of course I always had hope, I knew there were things I could actively change in my life and better my chances, and of course the rest was up to the will of God.
I knew well the story of Prophet Zakariya (peace and blessings be upon him) and how, after seeing all the blessings Maryam (peace and blessings be upon her) had been given, he made dua (supplication) to Allah asking Him to also bless him. To bless him with a child. And despite Zakariya’s (peace and blessings be upon him) and his wife’s old age, they were blessed with a child! This story is so full of hope for any parent trying to conceive. I made Prophet Zakariya (AS)’s dua on a daily basis, and especially during Ramadan.
“My Lord! Bestow upon me of Thy bounty goodly offspring. Lo! Thou art the Hearer of Prayer.” (Quran 3:38)
In 2012 my sister and I challenged each other to see who could lose more weight. I think she won. But the point was I was overweight by 40 lbs with an unhealthy BMI, and I needed to reclaim my health. Alhumdulillah at that time I lost 10 lbs :). Not too long after, my Mom and I signed up for a health and weight loss program called, Nadoona, and Alhumdulillah, I lost another 10 lbs. Making it 20 lbs lost in total.
Around the same time a friend of mine told me about Hijama. Hijama is cupping following the sunnah. I remembering reading about medicinal methods used in the time of the Prophet (pbuh) and though I had used black seed oil to cure my childhood asthma, honey to cure and prevent my winter colds, cupping was one technique that actually scared me. I knew though that if it was part of the sunnah then there was benefit in it, and I also came to know that it helped those having fertility issues. So I gave it a try and did it a couple of times and it really wasn’t that bad at all.
Alhumdulillah with the hijama and my improved nutrition and exercise habits, my energy levels were improving significantly and I was feeling and looking a lot healthier. Even coworkers who I hadn’t seen in quite some time noticed a difference in me. I think it was just what my body was calling for. It was exactly what I needed, and Alhumdulillah it was not too long after when I came to know, by the will of God, that I would be expecting my second child :).
The six year gap. It was probably both the hardest and the best thing that has ever happened to me. I shed many tears, I made many duas, my heart longed like it never longed before, but I became stronger. There is something beautiful in having to wait, having to be patient. We live in such a fast paced world, and from where I am on the planet there is so much instant gratification and material abundance. The concept of patience, of waiting, is almost foreign. Patience can teach you many things. It can teach you gratitude, to be grateful for what you have been blessed with. It can teach you humility, that in the end we are powerless and can only seek help from God.